I feel more complete for some of the suffering — like I have some dimension now. What I wish I had done was learn from it. In not learning from it I condemned myself to repeating it and to also walling off things in order to avoid pain in the future. The recent past is what is hurting now. I want to feel enriched by the experience, but all I can feel is the pain. Which is dulled now, anyway, because it is too hard to live with that intensity of hurt. The more I read of things, the more I feel totally controlled by my ego.
I would walk out into a new life. So I guess this is where all the hard work is. Oh — and the future. And, yet, I am kind of resigned to it — as in: It will be what it will be. And my ego is saying — I am the victim again. I must have something wrong with me. I am a failure. I am controlled by it and just reacting to it all the time. What I have learned from your post is that I think I can cherish even this recent past. The pain is being caused by ego.
The love was pure. It still is. It is still out there and I think it is still nurturing. The future is actually full of possibility. The fear is just ego resisting that possibility if that makes any sense. The future will always be there and so will all the possibilities. I can chose what I want or need from whatever is available at the time. Thanks for your post, Daphne. You have amazing insight. Reading what you write just spreads calmness everywhere. I am so happy that you are finding this useful.
Letting go is very very hard, and I struggled with it a lot and still do. The good news is, it gets easier with practice! Thanks Tunde for leaving a comment. Tangled webs indeed. And those webs trap so much of our time and energy. Thanks for your lovely comment as usual. Thank you for sharing something so personal. It must have torn you apart to have to let go of someone you loved so much. I love what you said — that when you heard the goodbye with unconditional love, there was only acceptance.
So true! I really appreciated reading about that on your blog, and look forward to hearing about developments in your life on that front. Love and joy to you too, Megan! And I love the way you put it — that love transcends the boundaries of time and space. Indeed it does! It envelops us more than we realise. Thanks for this wise comment. Your attitude of every death bringing new birth certainly helps!
Gosh I used to hold on to the past, the present, everything! So glad that you find the post helpful. You said it, gal! We feel so much better when we let go. So much lighter, freer, happier. Thank you!! Mercury recently posted..
Turning around and facing it is the first step to watching it dissolve. Thanks so much! This is such a helpful post. Thanks Paige! This is my first time to the site as well. Great insight into the deeper reality of life. What helps me let go is knowing that it is going to be such a waste of time to hold on to the pain.
Its going to cause me to feel like a victim, like I am powerless. This however is not true. What makes me a victim is if I believe I can control external circumstances.
The power comes from believing its all about how I respond to any given situation. What meanings I attach to the event and so on. Above all, knowing I have been forgiven of all my wrongs by our creator is what gives me the power to forgive others. Thanks so much for your awesome comment Adam! It usually takes people quite a while to fully understand what you have written. But we can control the stories that we tell ourselves which is what determines our feelings and emotions.
All the best to you Adam! Thanks for sharing such detail around this Paige. I might try it for that and see how it works for me. Ellen Bard recently posted.. Fix one thing. Hope the process is successful for you! Thank you for sharing such a detailed meditation around letting go. We get used to feeling the weight of what we wish we could drop. It can feel like scary work addressing the emotional challenges but it saves so much effort in the long run.
I completely agree with you Sondra. You are the only one with the power to let it go. Thanks so much Sandra! Your email address will not be published. Don't subscribe All Replies to my comments Notify me of followup comments via e-mail. You can also subscribe without commenting. This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed. You'll also receive access to the full library of free resources and updates on what's happening here at Simple Mindfulness.
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